tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-86310187729071654562024-03-06T12:02:01.462-08:00Next health talk:Dr. HF Lim 林廷辉http://www.blogger.com/profile/15311955725765804835noreply@blogger.comBlogger621125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8631018772907165456.post-81724396375125177192014-02-08T06:48:00.000-08:002014-02-08T06:48:59.771-08:00<b>NEW BOOK IN PREPARATION: UNIVERSAL VALUES, HAPPINESS AND HARMONY</b>
Throughout human history, people have been searching for happiness and harmony. Even though happiness is sometimes viewed as a personal matter, it is now measurable in terms of happiness index. The most popular being the Gross National Happiness Index.
Does happiness follow material progress and modernisation?
The truth is, as human civilization progresses, amidst science and technological advancements, happiness and harmony are so near and yet so far for the human society. In general, most people perceive that material wealth brings happiness. Hence, economic progress and technical education are given more emphasis. Yet, they are many among the affluent who are not happy. They lead a busy life and do not have proper rest. The middle and lower classes are generally not happy either. In reality, many people in both developed and developing nations, rich and poor, urban and rural, actually live with worries and lack social security.
Moral education has been identified as one of the means to achieve happiness and harmony. Such education is found in the teachings of all religions and the sages in different societies. It is now perceived that the universal values contained in these teachings have to be re-positioned in human society if human beings wish to attain happiness and harmony.
In this little book, a small effort is made to relook at the universal values as emphasised by Kongzi or Confucius (551–479 B.C.E). Such universal values are generally known as Di Zi Gui or Standards for Being A Good Student or “The Rules for Students”. Di Zi Gui is sourced from Analects of Confucius. Such values were then elaborated further Li Yuxiu who lived from the 17th to 18th centuries during the reign of Emperor Kangxi (1661-1722) of the Qing Dynasty.
Based on the wisdom of past wise men and sages, Confucius observed that happiness and harmony could be achieved when good values are practised between the following parties:
(a) husband and wife;
(b) parents and children;
(c) brothers and sisters;
(d) leaders and followers, employers and employees;
(e) among friends.
It is important to note that such values emphasised by Confucius are not new. These values are universal and found in other cultures and religious teachings too. Confucius just reminded us which among these values are the most important and must be given priority.
In all human societies, such universal values have been passed down from generation to generation by the elders to the young. As society modernises and develops, these values are often trivialised and sidelined, if not forgotten.
It is hoped that the publication of this little book will help revive the practice of universal values that could bring happiness to individuals and families, thereby promoting harmony.
This little book only repeats the universal values practised by all cultures that are still very relevant in this era of science and technology. As such, readers should view these universal values as supplementary practices that support the existing cultures and great religious teachings.
Indeed, universal values are actually education values suitable for practice by all peoples irrespective of cultural, ethnic and religious origins.
The practice of such universal values helps to avoid and resolve conflicts among multi-ethnic societies, like that in Malaysia, and the multi-racial world community. The universal values are the foundation for national unity and world harmony. By practising these values in our daily livelihood, anytime and anywhere, our life destiny will also be changed.
As one who benefits from the practice of universal values as presented by Confucius, it is my social responsibility to share my knowlege and experience for the benefit of others.
In late 2011, I began to prepare the Malay version of universal values. This finally led to the publication of a little book entitled Nilai-Nilai Murni Sejagat: Ke Arah Keluarga Bahagia dan Keharmonian Dunia in early 2013. The Malaysian plural society responded positively after the first 1,200 copies were distrubuted free-of-charge. By April 2013, another 2,000 copies had been printed and distributed. A total of 150 copies were given to Taiping Prison, Arau Prison and Machang Prison in Malaysia.
In June 2013, Persatuan Pendidikan Nilai-Niali Murni Dan Tradisi Cina, Kota Bharu, Kelantan sought permission and then reprinted 1,000 for free distribution to the public. In August 2013, LSYMEDIA Group Sdn Bhd, a private Malaysian company based in Seremban, sponsored the printing of another 1,000 copies. The company manager gave part of the books to his clients and friends while I disseminated the rest. In January 2014, with financial support from the National Library of Malaysia in the form of purchasing the author’s book, another 2,000 copies were printed for free distribution. In January 2014, a total of 150 copies were given to Pusat Anak-Anak Yatim Ilham, near Taman Tun Dr Ismail in Kuala Lumpur.
Following the good response from the public came a repeated request for me to present the universal values in English. I hesitated as efforts had already been made by others to translate Confucius teachings into English. As more requests were received to publish these universal values in English, I could no longer decline. The existing publications were examined again. Effort was taken to present the educational teachings and their importance in a special way so that they are acceptable to all. Yes, you will find some familiar phrases contained in other publications. For this, I thank them from the bottom of my heart.
The presentation of the universal values emphasised by the past sages in this little book takes a special form. The human problems are explained, the root causes identified and how we could achieve happiness and harmony through practising universal values in daily life outlined. The values are also presented in a manner which is easy to read and remember, and convenient to practise. Such is the modest difference of this book from those of others conveying the same message.
This litle book is by no means perfect and there is always room for improvement. Whatever shortcomings contained in this book are entirely mine. With a humble heart, my apology for any faults with the book.
May this little book help you find the answers to problems in human interaction. If you are willing to keep an open mind, be humble and let go of oneself, you will find the solutions to poor relationships. If you are still not happy and calm, just take a break and later check which part of this little book you have not practised enough. Then, move on with confidence and great patience.
It is our wish that you and your family too would enjoy the bliss of happiness and harmony by practising universal values in your daily life.
Together let us build a world full of happiness and harmony.
How could this be achieved?
It begins with oneself. When one is in harmony with the self, it sets the foundation for the family to be in harmony. When the family units are in harmony, the society, nation and world will be in harmony.
From the heart of love, sincerity and compassion
Lim Hin Fui, PhD
Dr. HF Lim 林廷辉http://www.blogger.com/profile/15311955725765804835noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8631018772907165456.post-23883719670217778892013-12-23T02:43:00.001-08:002013-12-23T02:43:54.564-08:00Dear Dr Lim. Thank you for giving me an opportunity to have a copy of your health book which I have already started and paused on Chapter 2 - It Began with Cancer. I wish I would have read on this information earlier 2 years ago, the time when my grandfather in law, a strong healthy man was diagnosed with prostate similar cancer if I were not mistaken and soon passed away after that. These information might have been useful to prolong his life, like how it did to your father in law. Since I have a copy of my own now, these information could be of useful material in the future for my family and friends. A very fruitful discovery today upon reading on your publication. I wish you and your family a very Merry Christmas & Happy New Year, good health and happiness always.Dr. HF Lim 林廷辉http://www.blogger.com/profile/15311955725765804835noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8631018772907165456.post-5689476248572350202013-12-15T05:08:00.000-08:002013-12-15T05:08:36.250-08:00在SM超市,看到一个3 岁小孩在入口处大喊大叫。末学走过去问问孩子的母亲,得知孩子一直要求妈妈给他玩电动玩具。妈妈说已经玩了两次,孩子还是要玩。 末学蹲下身子,握着孩子的手,说他是个好孩子。孩子低下头来吻末学的手。末学说,你真是个好孩子。孩子想了一下, 转过头,又哭了。末学转身面对他,问 Adakah Ali tahu siapakah yang melahirkan Ali? 孩子看看妈妈。 Ali sayang ibu? Sayang. Jika Ali sayang ibu, dengarlah kata-kata ibu. 孩子点头。 孩子的父亲驾车来了。末学向他们一家人说再见。Dr. HF Lim 林廷辉http://www.blogger.com/profile/15311955725765804835noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8631018772907165456.post-80399391873689306992013-11-04T17:33:00.002-08:002013-11-04T17:33:49.117-08:00The more we observe things happening around us, the more we feel that there are too many problems facing human society. Conflict, disharmony and disasters are too common now. How can we solve these problems? The answer to this lies with our mind. The solution is with everyone of us. We have to transform ourselves. Just plant the seed of harmony in our mind and then translate it in our though, speech and action. When we begin to do so, we will soon realise the how important our mind is in changing our life destiny and that of the universe. Just do it, here and now.Dr. HF Lim 林廷辉http://www.blogger.com/profile/15311955725765804835noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8631018772907165456.post-1407710656068124752013-10-05T05:41:00.000-07:002013-10-05T05:41:23.008-07:00“教孩子恭敬,教孝道。学会了这两个字,他的人格成长有基础,他的成绩一定很好,你根本不用盯着他读书。为什么?他懂得父母的需要,知道父母的心境。与其每一天盯着他,天天跟他冲突,倒不如让孩子能够主动学习,生起那份对人的尊重、对人的爱跟关怀。实际上孩子自己有上进心,自愿学习,这比什么都重要”。
Educate our children to be responsible and respectful. Learn these two things that will strengthen children's personnel development and their academic performance will be good too. We do not have to keep our eyes on them to ensure that they will study. Why? After learning to be responsible and respectful,our children understand our feelings and our aspirations. If we were to watch them all the time, that will only bring conflicts. It is better to let children learn willingly. Let them learn to respect, love and care for others. In reality, it is most important for children to be forward looking and ready to learn willingly.Dr. HF Lim 林廷辉http://www.blogger.com/profile/15311955725765804835noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8631018772907165456.post-23564928424447341202013-09-28T05:53:00.000-07:002013-09-28T05:53:54.682-07:00KNOW OUR WAY, KNOW THE OTHER'S WAY. In human interaction, it is so important to know our own way and the way of the other person we are interacting with. Take the case of father and son/daughter. The father's way towards the children is to love them in all aspects without conditions. The child's way is to be dutiful to the father. To be in harmony, it does not matter whether our children are dutiful or not, the role of the parents is to love and care for the children. Vice versa, whether the parents love them or not, the children must be dutiful to the parents at all time. The relationship is like two drivers on the road. There are certain rules to follow when driving. Driver A must know his own way and the way of the other driver on the road. Vice versa. By know the ways, the two drivers would not result in any unnecessary incidents while driving. Let's learn to know our own ways by understanding our position in relation to the other person in interaction. I use this method to interact with others and find it very useful. May you also benefit from this.Dr. HF Lim 林廷辉http://www.blogger.com/profile/15311955725765804835noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8631018772907165456.post-54782546266642938232013-09-07T16:06:00.000-07:002013-09-07T16:06:03.639-07:00讒言。
讒言慎莫听
听之祸殃结
君听臣当诛
父听子当决
夫妻听之离
兄弟听之别
朋友听之疏
骨肉听之绝
堂堂七尺躯
莫听三寸舌
舌上有龙泉
杀人不见血
RUMOURS
Do not listen to rumours
When listened and influenced, troubles/problems may follow.
The leader may kill the followers.
Father may break up with children
Couple may divorce
Siblings may depart
Friends may distant
Blood relation may end
The humans are physically tall
Never listen to talk of little mouth
The tongue is a sharp knife
Killing in silence
Dr. HF Lim 林廷辉http://www.blogger.com/profile/15311955725765804835noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8631018772907165456.post-59832483525850258732013-08-17T07:20:00.001-07:002013-08-17T07:20:33.353-07:00Universal Values: Source of Happiness and Harmony (In Preparation)
Through out human history, people are searching for happiness and harmony. Even though happiness is sometimes viewed as a personal matter, it is now measurable in terms of so called happiness index. The most popular being the Gross National happiness Index.
Does happiness follow material progress and modernisation?
The truth is as human civilization progresses, amidst science and technological advancement, happiness and harmony is so near and yet so far for the human society. In general, most people perceive that material wealth brings happiness. Hence, economic progress and technical education are given more emphasis. Yet, they are many among the affluent who are not happy. The middle and lower classes are not happy either. In reality, many people in both developed and developing nations, rich and poor, actually live in fear and lack social security.
Moral education has been identified as one of the means to achieve happiness and harmony. Such education is found in the teachings of the religions and the sages. It is now perceived that the universal values contained in these teachings have to be re-positioned in human society if human beings wish to attain happiness and harmony.
In this context a small being effort is made to re-look at the universal values as emphasised by Kongzi or Confucius (551–479 B.C.E). Such universal values are generally known as Di Zi Gui or Standards for Being A Good Student or “The Rules for Students”. Di Zi Gui is sourced from Analects of Confucious. Such values were then arranged and presented in current form by Li Yuxiu in the 17th and 18th centuries during the reign of Emperor Kangxi (1661-1722) of the Qing Dynasty.
Based on the practices of the wise and sages in the past, Confucius observed that happiness and harmony could be achieved when good values are practised between the following parties.
(a) parents and children,
(b) husband and wife,
(c) brothers and sisters,
(d) leaders and followers, employers and employees,
(e) among friends.
It is important to note that such values emphasised by Confucius are not new. These values are universal and found in other cultures and religious teachings too. Confucius just reminded us among these values which are the most important and must be given priority.
In all human societies, such universal values were passed down from generation to generation by the elders to the young ones. As society modernises and materialises, these values are now marginalised and side-lined, if not forgotten.
It is hope that this effort would assist in reviving the practise of universal values that could could bring happiness to the individuals and families. Subsequently, world harmony would be achieved.
This write-up only repeats the universal values practised by all cultures and are still very relevant in this science and technology era. As such, the readers should view these universal values as supplementary practices that support the existing cultures and great religious teachings.
Indeed, universal values are actually education suitable for practice by all peoples irrespective of cultural, ethnic and religious origins.
The practice such universal values could bring happiness and harmony to the individuals and families. It helps to avoid and resolve conflicts among the multi-ethnic Malaysian society. The universal values are the foundation for national unity and world harmony. By practising these values in our daily livelihood, any time and any where, our life destiny will be changed.
It is our wish that you and your family too would enjoy the bliss of happiness and harmony by practising universal values in daily life.
May all enjoy the bliss of happiness and harmony.
From the heart of love, health and compassion
Lim Hin Fui, PhD
Dr. HF Lim 林廷辉http://www.blogger.com/profile/15311955725765804835noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8631018772907165456.post-54306791574184024042013-08-08T03:46:00.002-07:002013-08-08T03:46:43.714-07:00The little book "Nilai-Nilai Murni Sejagat: ke arah keluarga bahagia dan keharmonian dunia" has received good response. 3 prisons in Peninsular Malaysia has each received 150 copies of the books free of charge. These prisons are in Taiping, Arau and Marang. it is hoped that the book could benefit both the staffs and those serving their terms. Best wishes to all.Dr. HF Lim 林廷辉http://www.blogger.com/profile/15311955725765804835noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8631018772907165456.post-85315801424477597972013-07-13T16:23:00.000-07:002013-07-13T16:23:11.759-07:00Ever since the publication of Nilai-Nilai Murni Sejagat: Ke Arah Keluarga Bahagia dan Keharmonian Dunia early 2013, we have received encouraging responses. The Malaysian local Chinese dailies have covered the news of this little piece of work which is expected to have far-reaching impacts on Malaysian society. The China Press later came to my office to interview us (1 Orang Asli, 3 Malays and myself) on how these universal values have transformed our life. The Danjiang educational centre in Kota Bahru has made a special effort to reprint 1,000 copies for free distribution. In June 2013, I showed the little book to the person-in-charge of Taiping and Arau prisons. With their consent, each prison was given 150 books of Nilai-Nilai Murni. It is hoped that such a little book could help to transform the life of those at the prisons. My long term plan to provide books to all prisons and drug addict rehabilitation centres in Malaysia. At the mean time, there are now requests for me to prepare the little booklet in English. I am working towards this direction now for the benefit of mankind. Simply, all of us could lead a happy and harmonious life but many fail to find the direction and the way. The book could be the answer to many in the world. May all of us lead a happier and more harmonious life. Should you need a soft copy of the book, let me know by emailing to drlimhf@gmail.comDr. HF Lim 林廷辉http://www.blogger.com/profile/15311955725765804835noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8631018772907165456.post-76824238278668740632013-05-26T05:36:00.001-07:002013-05-26T05:36:14.775-07:00When our parents are ill,
treatment and medicine will be sought.
We will take care of their health, until they recover.
After our parents pass away,
we remember them with gratitude.
During the mourning period, we avoid festivities.
During their funerals, proper traditions are followed.
For the memorial ceremony,
we commemorate with utmost sincerity.
We will serve our parents, as if they were alive.
Andai mereka sakit, rawatan dan ubat diberikan.
Tanpa kira masa, prihatin terhadap mereka.
Jika mereka meninggal dunia, kita kenangi mereka.
Semasa berkabung, doa dititipkan.
Kebumikan mereka, dengan penuh rela.
Adakan majlis peringatan, ziarahi pusara usah dilupa.
Dr. HF Lim 林廷辉http://www.blogger.com/profile/15311955725765804835noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8631018772907165456.post-36787283582158519992013-05-15T05:57:00.001-07:002013-05-15T05:57:35.646-07:00When our parents do a wrong,
we will remind them gently.
We will do it with a smiling face and a gentle voice.
If they do not accept our reminder,
we will do it another time.
Even if they scold us, we will not hold any grudge against them.
Andai mereka alpa, kita memperingatkan mereka.
Dengan muka manis, suara biar lembut.
Jika enggan terima, boleh cuba lagi.
Pujuk jika perlu, marah diterima dengan rela.
Dr. HF Lim 林廷辉http://www.blogger.com/profile/15311955725765804835noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8631018772907165456.post-13246820216538002772013-05-11T00:29:00.001-07:002013-05-11T00:29:10.655-07:00If parents’ wish is reasonable, we will fulfil it.
If something displeases our parents, we will keep it away.
When our body is hurt, our parents will be worried.
If our virtues are compromised, our parents will feel ashamed.
Our parents love us, be dutiful to them is natural.
Even if they hate us, our duty to them remains.
Jika permintaan memadai, tunaikan hasrat ibu bapa.
Apa yang mereka tak suka, baik kita jauhi.
Jika kita cedera, mereka akan risau.
Andai moral rendah, mereka pasti malu.
Ibu bapa sayang akan kita,
tidak sukar balas budi mereka.
Jika mereka benci kita, sayang kita tetap sama.
Dr. HF Lim 林廷辉http://www.blogger.com/profile/15311955725765804835noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8631018772907165456.post-46329229679179806672013-05-01T05:25:00.002-07:002013-05-01T05:25:40.769-07:00Even if it is a small wrong, we will never do it.
If we do it, it will be against our parents’ wish.
Even if it is a small object, we will not hide it.
If we hide it, this will hurt our parents’ feelings.
Walaupun perkara remeh, jangan ambil mudah
Kerana jika dilakukan juga, tidak taatlah kita.
Walau sekecil harta, jangan sekali-kali disorok.
Jika disorokkan juga, sedihlah ibu bapa.
Dr. HF Lim 林廷辉http://www.blogger.com/profile/15311955725765804835noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8631018772907165456.post-44539823601633952932013-04-29T05:14:00.001-07:002013-04-29T05:14:49.837-07:00Irrespective of weather condition,
ensure our parents are comfortable.
Greet parents in the morning,
Ensure they have good rest at night.
Inform parents before going out,
Do the same upon returning.
Live at a permanent place,
Lead a routine life.
Tidak kira sebarang cuaca, pastikan ibu bapa selesa.
Bertanya khabar pada waktu pagi,
ambil berat pada waktu malam.
Beritahu sebelum keluar, beritahu setelah kembali.
Kehidupan mengikut rutin, aspirasi tak mudah diubah.
Dr. HF Lim 林廷辉http://www.blogger.com/profile/15311955725765804835noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8631018772907165456.post-67220838994770062882013-04-27T05:38:00.001-07:002013-04-27T05:38:28.483-07:00THE ROOT OF HAPPINESS & SUCCESS: BE DUTIFUL TO OUR PARENTS
When parents call, we answer immediately.
When parents request, we do quickly.
When parents teach, we listen carefully.
When parents reproach, we accept respectfully.
Panggilan ibu bapa, jawablah dengan segera.
Suruhan ibu bapa, buatlah dengan segera.
Didikan ibu bapa, dengarlah dengan teliti.
Teguran ibu bapa, terimalah dengan rela.
Dr. HF Lim 林廷辉http://www.blogger.com/profile/15311955725765804835noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8631018772907165456.post-85187238554107290662013-04-06T06:58:00.002-07:002013-04-06T06:58:40.454-07:002013 年3月17日:女儿关怀弟弟,给他写下。末学对女儿说:感恩您的爱心。
1. 读书时保持心情开朗
2. 身体处于健康状态
3. 心理上准备迎接挑战
4. 遇到难题时必须查清楚
5. 再不会,问姐姐
6. 对自己的文具要尊重
7. 补习时要格外专心 (华作)
8. 学校功课要尽全力做好
9. 学会的东西在必要时分享以增加自己对知识的认识
10. 重覆看以前做过,抄写过的东西
11. 所有记录必须亲力亲为
Below is my 18-year old daughter's advice to his 12-year old brother.
1. Keep a relax mind when studying. 2. maintain good health. 3. mentally prepared for challenges. 4. have a good check when facing difficulty. 5. if you do not know the answer, ask your sister. 6. respect the stationery. 7. Be attentive during tuition classes. 8. complete homework promptly. 9. share after learning to enhance our understanding. 10. Revise lessons learned. 11. Record personally.Dr. HF Lim 林廷辉http://www.blogger.com/profile/15311955725765804835noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8631018772907165456.post-38074421648721233902013-03-17T01:28:00.001-07:002013-03-17T01:28:25.126-07:00NILAI-NILAI MURNI SEJAGAT
Nilai-Nilai Murni Sejagat mementingkan pendidikan tentang perhubungan yang baik antara manusia, dan antara manusia dengan alam sekitar.
Nilai-nilai ini menekankan tanggungjawab seorang anak terhadap ibu bapa.
Nilai-nilai ini mendidik kita menghormati orang yang lebih tua dan menyayangi adik-beradik.
Seterusnya, Nilai-Nilai Murni Sejagat mengajar kita supaya berhati-hati dalam amalan seharian terutamanya apabila berinteraksi dengan pihak yang lain dalam menguruskan sesuatu perkara.
Nilai-nilai murni ini mendidik kita menjadi seorang yang amanah.
Tambahan pula, Nilai-Nilai Murni Sejagat mengajar kita supaya menyayangi semua insan.
Nilai-nilai ini menggalakkan kita supaya mencontohi para budiman supaya menjadi orang mulia.
Selepas kita mengamalkan nilai-nilai di atas, barulah kita dapat menambahkan pengetahuan dalam bidang lain seperti sains, teknologi, kesusasteraan, kesenian dan kesukanan untuk meningkatkan kualiti budaya dan spiritual.
Dr. HF Lim 林廷辉http://www.blogger.com/profile/15311955725765804835noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8631018772907165456.post-80818375202718777762013-03-03T05:52:00.001-08:002013-03-03T05:52:23.177-08:00PENGENALAN
Adakah anda bahagia?
Mengapakah keluarga dan masyarakat tidak harmoni?
Cabaran Hidup Yang Membimbangkan
Tatacara mencapai kebahagiaan dan keharmonian hidup ini dinyatakan dengan jelas dalam semua kitab agama dan penulisan para budiman yang menjadi panduan.
Walau bagaimanapun, dalam era globalisasi ini, masyarakat menghadapi pelbagai cabaran yang menjejaskan kebahagiaan hidup.
Berbanding generasi dahulu, generasi kini sama ada golongan tua, muda atau kanak-kanak, lebih mementingkan diri sendiri, kebendaan, persaingan, hak asasi dan kebebasan.
Tanpa disedari, kebanyakan penduduk dunia kini sedang menuju ke arah perjalanan hidup yang boleh membawa kepada krisis yang mampu mengancam kebahagiaan keluarga dan kebudayaan bangsa. Kestabilan negara juga turut tergugat sekiranya rakyat dipengaruhi oleh unsur-unsur negatif ini. Konflik antarabangsa juga akan berterusan.
Tumpuan pendidikan (formal dan tidak formal) yang sebenar adalah untuk mendidik kita menjadi insan yang baik dan berguna. Namun perkara itu sering diabaikan kerana masyarakat lebih menekankan pencapaian akademik dan kebendaan yang berasaskan persaingan. Hakikatnya, persaingan akan membawa pergaduhan yang akan berakhir dengan peperangan.
Pada era moden ini, ibu bapa menghadapi pelbagai masalah dan berhadapan dengan isu-isu pembelajaran anak-anak seperti:
• Anak yang mengingkari kata-kata ibu bapa
• Anak yang bertelingkah sesama adik-beradik
• Anak yang tidak menghormati mereka yang lebih tua dan orang atasan (guru, pegawai)
• Anak yang menghisap rokok atau dadah
• Anak yang malas dan tidak mahu bekerja atau bekerja secara tidak sepenuh hati
• Anak yang tidak mahu membuat kerja rumah
• Anak yang tidak berbudi bahasa
• Anak yang asyik menonton TV/Video/DVD
• Anak yang asyik bermain permainan komputer dan telefon bimbit
• Anak yang lebih menyayangi teman-temannya berbanding dengan ibu bapa dan saudara-mara
• Anak yang suka melepak
• Anak yang sanggup mencederakan ibu bapa dan adik- beradik
• Anak yang tidak menghargai alam sekitar
• Anak yang tidak menganggap masa itu emas
• Anak yang tidak berfikir tentang masa depan
• Anak yang kahwin lari
• Anak yang hilang haluan hidup
• Anak yang tidak menjaga ibu bapa yang telah tua
• Anak yang lebih mementingkan kebendaan
• Anak yang terlibat dengan jenayah
• Anak yang tidak bertanggungjawab
• Berlaku sumbang mahram
Malahan, kebanyakan golongan dewasa menghadapi pelbagai masalah dalam interaksi harian seperti:
• Suami yang ingin berkahwin lagi
• Suami yang tidak bertanggungjawab
• Suami yang mengabaikan nafkah isteri
• Isteri yang bekerja mengabaikan urusan rumah tangga seperti tidak memasak untuk keluarganya lalu menyebabkan hubungan kekeluargaan menjadi renggang.
• Isteri yang mementingkan kebendaan
• Suami/Isteri yang mempunyai skandal
• Suami/isteri yang berhutang
• Suami/isteri yang mendera anak terutamanya yang masih kecil
• Suami/Isteri yang berkerjaya yang terlalu mengejar kenaikan pangkat sehingga mengabaikan pendidikan (termasuk pendidikan moral) dan kebajikan anak-anak
• Mentua yang tidak bertimbang rasa
• Menantu yang bersikap sombong
• Ramai wanita dan lelaki yang memilih untuk tidak berkahwin
• Wanita yang banyak melakukan pengguguran anak
• Ibu bapa dan anak-anak yang bersikap panas baran akibat tekanan mental dan fizikal. Lebih teruk lagi, yang akan membawa kepada pembunuhan
• Ibu bapa yang terpaksa menjadi pembantu rumah
• Anak buah yang tidak mengikuti arahan ketua
• Anak buah yang tidak menghormati pemimpin dan ketua
• Anak buah yang mencuri tulang atau berbohong
Kebanyakan ibu bapa kini kehilangan idea untuk mendidik anak-anak mereka manakala ramai orang menghadapi masalah komunikasi. Untuk mengatasinya, pakar sains dari barat telah dirujuk dan pelbagai program motivasi juga telah disertai. Walau bagaimanapun, kesannya juga amat terhad. Justeru itu, bagaimanakah kita dapat mencapai kebahagiaan dan kesejahteraan hidup? Maka antara cara bagi mencapai kebahagiaan keluarga adalah melalui amalan nilai-nilai murni sejagat.
Buku kecil ini disediakan bertujuan untuk mengingatkan kita bahawa pendidikan nilai-nilai murni para budiman dahulu boleh dijadikan rujukan untuk diamalkan. Melalui pembelajaran dan pengamalan nilai-nilai ini, hubungan baik dapat diwujudkan.
Kesan-Kesan Amalan Nilai-Nilai Murni
Adakah nilai-nilai murni sejagat ini berkesan dalam menangani pelbagai masalah masyarakat moden?
Kini telah dibukti bahawa pengamalan nilai-nilai murni dapat meningkatkan kesedaran masyarakat terhadap pendidikan nilai-nilai murni sejagat yang boleh membawa kepada kebahagiaan. Antara kesan ketara daripada pengamalan nilai-nilai murni ini dalam masyarakat termasuklah
• Suami isteri yang ingin bercerai berbaik semula
• Suami isteri yang bercerai berkahwin semula
• Suami/isteri yang mempunyai hubungan sulit telah mengakhiri hubungan itu
• Anak yang nakal dan jahat telah menjadi anak yang baik
• Anak yang menyertai kongsi gelap kembali ke pangkal jalan/pangkuan keluarga
• Anak yang menghisap dadah meninggalkan tabiat itu
• Pergaduhan antara ibu bapa dan anak berhenti
• Anak lebih menghormati dan menjaga kebajikan ibu bapa
• Anak menantu yang biadap berbudi bahasa terhadap ibu bapa mentua
• Orang yang ingin membunuh membatalkan niatnya
• Orang yang mengelakkan cukai pendapatan, mencuri bekalan elektrik dan air membayar ganti rugi akibat daripada perbuatan mereka
• Kaki judi berhenti berjudi
• Kaki botol berhenti mengambil minuman keras
• Pesakit kanser berjaya untuk terus hidup
• Pesakit kencing manis sembuh
• Pegawai kerajaan berhenti menerima rasuah
• Orang yang terlibat dalam perniagaan haram telah memberhentikan aktiviti itu
• Orang yang menjalankan aktiviti yang merosakkan akhlak dan moral telah memberhentikan perniagaan
• Orang yang menyimpan dengki selama berpuluh-puluh tahun telah memaafkan ‘musuhnya’
• Orang yang berniaga secara ikhlas dan amanah telah menerima keuntungan berkali ganda
Syurga di Tapak Kaki Ibu
Bagaimanakah kesan positif ini dicapai dalam kehidupan sempurna?
Pertamanya, pengalaman dahulu menunjukkan bahawa orang yang mementingkan diri sendiri dan mengabaikan kepentingan orang lain, masyarakat, negara atau alam sekitar tidak akan mengecapi kebahagiaan hidup. Malahan, wang ringgit yang diterima secara haram telah membawa kepada pelbagai penderitaan dalam bentuk anak yang derhaka, penyakit dan malapetaka yang menimpa.
Apabila mereka mengubah sikap ke arah menjadi baik dan berhati mulia, kehidupan mereka berubah menjadi lebih berjaya. Mereka berasa lebih gembira, tenang dan bahagia.
Keduanya, amalan nilai-nilai murni sejagat ini menyedarkan bahawa kita terhutang budi terhadap ibu bapa. Nilai-nilai ini mengingatkan kita terhadap cinta, kasih dan sayang yang mendalam dan berkekalan antara ibu bapa dan anak-anak mereka.
Sebagai seorang anak, kita seharusnya membalas jasa dan pengorbanan ibu bapa. Anak-anak perlu sentiasa mengingati seni kata “Ibu, Engkaulah Ratu Hatiku”, iaitu ibu bapa sebagai orang yang harus dihormati pada setiap masa. Sebagai seorang anak, kita harus bertekad untuk menjaga ibu bapa dengan penuh kasih dan sayang.
Kasih sayang terhadap ibu bapa dan anggota keluarga haruslah dipupuk dan disemai dalam naluri setiap insan. Di samping itu, budi pekerti mulia ibu bapa akan menjadi teladan kepada anak-anak mereka. Pendek kata, asas peribadi mulia seseorang bergantung kepada cara asuhan ibu bapanya.
Dunia ini penuh dengan pelbagai cabaran dan dugaan. Dengan mengamalkan nilai-nilai murni, kita dapat membentuk satu benteng pertahanan untuk menangkis sebarang godaan yang boleh menggugat dan mencemarkan maruah diri, keluarga, masyarakat dan negara.
Pengamalan nilai-nilai murni merupakan perkara yang paling penting dalam kehidupan yang sempurna, seterusnya merealisasikan keharmonian keluarga, masyarakat, negara dan dunia.
Penyediaan Buku Ini
Sedar akan kepentingan mencapai kebahagiaan hidup secara menyeluruh, saya berasa terpanggil untuk menyediakan nilai-nilai murni sejagat ini dalam bentuk seloka iaitu dalam bahasa yang mudah yang dapat diterima oleh semua pembaca. Gaya penyampaian mengambil kira nilai budaya tempatan supaya senang difahami, diingati dan diamalkan. Oleh yang demikian, terdapat sedikit perbezaan penyampaian berbanding dengan buku-buku lain.
Amalan nilai-nilai murni sejagat ini boleh membantu mencapai kebahagian dalam hidup seseorang. Matlamat hidup yang paling penting adalah mengamalkan nilai-nilai murni sejagat bagi mencapai kehidupan yang sempurna. Pengamalan nilai-nilai ini akan menghasilkan pencapaian akademik yang cemerlang atau dalam bentuk kekayaan. Dalam amalan harian, akhlak dan tingkah laku dalam sesuatu hubungan seperti hubungan suami isteri, ibu bapa, adik-beradik, pemimpin dengan orang yang dipimpin/majikan dan pekerja, serta kawan-kawan adalah ditekankan. Ini dapat dilihat daripada ringkasan di bawah.
Ibu bapa didahulukan, adik beradik diutamakan,
Berhati-hati dalam amalan, beramanah dalam tindakan,
Sayangi semua insan, dekati orang beriman,
Jika ada masa lapang, belajar ilmu tambahan.
Kebahagiaan hidup boleh dicapai melalui pembelajaran dan pengamalan nilai-nilai murni sejagat yang sejajar dengan semua ajaran agama dan para budiman tidak kira sama ada bangsa atau kepercayaan. Secara ringkasnya, amalan ini dapat mengeratkan hubungan seperti berikut.
Hubungan mesra antara suami isteri
Hubungan mesra antara ibu bapa dan anak
Hubungan mesra antara adik-beradik
Hubungan mesra antara pemimpin dan orang yang dipimpin
Hubungan mesra antara kawan
Langkah demi langkah yang diambil bagi mengamalkan nilai-nilai murni sejagat penting dalam membentuk keluarga bahagia. Amalan baik ini bermula dengan diri kita dan ibu bapa. Tanpa disedari, ini akan meninggalkan kesan-kesan positif dalam keluarga kita bersesuaian dengan perumpamaan “bapa borek, anak rintik”. Ini adalah kerana keluarga merupakan unit sosial yang paling penting dalam mempengaruhi pemikiran dan kelakuan seseorang. Anak juga akan mencontohi apa yang dilakukan oleh ibu bapa.
Nilai-nilai murni ini mendidik kita menjadi seorang insan yang berhati suci dan berkelakuan baik. Dengan itu, semua keluarga boleh menikmati kebahagiaan.
Bersama-sama kita amalkan nilai-nilai murni sejagat demi kebahagiaan keluarga, keharmonian masyarakat dan kesejahteraan dunia.
Dr. HF Lim 林廷辉http://www.blogger.com/profile/15311955725765804835noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8631018772907165456.post-88541503554574856302013-02-23T04:33:00.000-08:002013-02-23T04:33:11.867-08:00PRAKATA Buku Baru (Nilai-Nilai Murni Sejagat: Ke Arah Keluarga Bahagia & Keharmonian Dunia)
Pelbagai pendekatan pendidikan telah dikemukakan oleh ahli pendidik dan ahli falsafah. Pada tahun 1997, United Nations Educational, Scientific and Cultural Organization (UNESCO) telah menerbitkan profil 100 orang ahli pendidik dari pelbagai negara yang telah meninggalkan kesan secara global ke atas pemikiran pendidikan. Antara mereka ini termasuklah Imam Besar Al-Ghazali, Confucius, Emile Durkheim, Jean Piaget, John Dewey, Mohandas Karamchand Gandhi dan Plato.
Plato (428/427–348/347 SM), seorang ahli falsafah Greek, membincangkan perhubungan bapa dan anak dan pengaruh bapa ke atas kejayaan anak.
Imam Besar Al-Ghazali (1058–1111) menekankan kepentingan perhubungan antara manusia dengan manusia (khasnya antara ibu bapa dan anak serta guru dan pelajar), dan manusia dengan tuhan dalam menjadi khalifah di bumi ini.
Mohandas Karamchand Gandhi (1869–1948) menekankan “non-violence” atau ahimsa terhadap semua jenis hidupan.
Jean Piaget (1896–1980) melihat bagaimana manusia memperoleh, membina dan menggunakan pengetahuan.
Penekanan John Dewey (1859–1952) ialah “Social Reconstruction” di mana sekolah dan bilik darjah penting dalam mengubah minda murid-murid.
Emile Durkheim (1958–1917) menfokuskan integriti dan perpaduan masyarakat melalui perhubungan antara guru dan pelajar dalam melaksanakan aktiviti-aktiviti pendidikan.
Persamaan antara penyampaian ahli-ahli pendidik ini adalah tentang mencapai kebahagiaan, keharmonian dan keamanan melalui amalan nilai-nilai murni sejagat.
Dalam buku kecil ini, nilai-nilai murni sejagat yang diberi perhatian oleh Kongzi atau Confucius (551–479 S.M.) yang dikenali sebagai Di Zi Gui atau Standards for Being A Good Student telah disediakan. Nilai-nilai ini kemudiannya disusun oleh Li Yuxiu pada abad ke-17 dan ke-18.
Berdasarkan amalan orang budiman dahulu, Confucius mendapati bahawa kebahagiaan dan keharmonian boleh dicapai melalui amalan harian yang dapat mewujudkan hubungan mesra antara
(a) anak dan ibu bapa,
(b) suami dan isteri,
(c) adik-beradik,
(d)pemimpin dan orang yang dipimpin atau majikan dan pekerja, dan
(e) rakan-rakan.
Nilai-nilai murni yang ditekankan oleh Confucius ini bukan sesuatu yang baru. Nilai-nilai sejagat ini terdapat dalam semua budaya dan kepercayaan manusia.
Nilai-nilai ini sememangnya telah lama diterapkan dalam budaya kita. Nilai-nilai ini disampaikan oleh warga tua kepada anak cucu mereka. Akan tetapi, nilai-nilai tersebut semakin dipinggirkan kerana masyarakat kini lebih menekankan pencapaian akademik dan kebendaan daripada amalan nilai-nilai murni. Semoga melalui pembacaan buku ini, nilai-nilai tersebut dapat dihidupkan dan disuburkan kembali agar menjadi amalan dalam kehidupan semua.
Harus diingati bahawa penyediaan buku ini cuma mengulangi nilai-nilai murni yang diamalkan zaman dahulu yang masih relevan dan berguna dalam zaman sains dan teknologi.
Oleh yang demikian, pembaca harus meneliti nilai-nilai murni sejagat ini sebagai amalan kefahaman tambahan yang menyokong kebudayaaan dan kepercayaan masing-masing.
Nilai-nilai murni sejagat ini merupakan pendidikan yang sesuai diamalkan oleh semua orang tanpa mengira latar belakang, keturunan, kebudayaan dan kepercayaan. Amalan nilai-nilai sejagat ini boleh membawa kebahagiaan kepada diri dan keluarga. Nilai-nilai ini dapat menjamin keamanan dan kesejahteraan masyarakat. Nilai-nilai ini membantu mengelakkan konflik dan menyatupadukan rakyat Malaysia yang berbilang bangsa serta menjadi asas bagi mencapai kemakmuran negara. Namun nilai-nilai ini juga boleh diaplikasikan dalam hubungan antarabangsa kerana kebahagiaan wajar dinikmati oleh semua insan di dunia.
Mudah-mudahan anda dan keluarga juga dapat mencapai kebahagiaan dan keharmonian yang hakiki melalui pengamalan nilai-nilai murni sejagat ini.
Usaha penyediaan buku kecil ini telah menghadapi pelbagai cabaran. Ianya tidak sempurna dan penambahbaikan boleh dibuat. Oleh itu, apa-apa kekurangan yang terdapat dalam buku ini adalah kelemahan diri saya. Dengan rendah hati, saya memohon maaf atas kekurangan yang wujud.
Dengan kesyukuran dan keikhlasan,
Lim Hin Fui, PhD Feb 2013
Dr. HF Lim 林廷辉http://www.blogger.com/profile/15311955725765804835noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8631018772907165456.post-9422816912632128122013-02-02T16:48:00.002-08:002013-02-02T16:48:42.030-08:00德育历史:三贤禅位
堯是一位著名的贤君,处处为人民著想,对荣华富贵十分淡薄,住的的是简陋的茅屋,过著粗茶淡饭,勤俭朴素的生活。堯为了人民尽心尽责,但他的儿子丹朱是个不肖子。堯不愿意传闻位给儿子,准备将帝位禅让给贤人。他知道,舜是位贤孝而又有才华的年轻人,就让位给舜。
舜 是黄帝的7 世孙,名重华。 他天性笃厚,对父母十分孝顺。舜的生母死得早,后母心肠很坏。 后母生的弟弟名叫象,是个极傲慢的人。生活在这样的家庭,舜待父母、弟弟都很好。虽然家人要杀害他 (修补倉顶故事;淘井故事),舜还是像过去一样和和气气对待他的父母和弟弟。舜在位长达几十年,深受爱戴。舜也没有把王位传给儿子商均,而禅让给治水有功的禹。
禹 治水13年,三过家门而不入。他因治水而手脚肿大,汗毛尽脱。他倡导的以疏导为主的治水经验,成为后世解决社会问题的典范。到了晚年,禹 四处查访,最后推举伯益为继承人。
禹 死后,他的儿子 啓 即位,反对伯益,并杀了伯益, 夺得王位 (公元前 1988-1979年)。以前的 “禅让”制度便从这时被破坏,代之以“家天下”的王位制度代之。
Life histories of 3 great emperors in ancient China. YAO was a kind emperor who always had the peoples' interests at heart. He led a simple life with simple food. Even though he was kind-hearted, his son DAN CHOO was not a good person. YAO did not want to pass the throne to his own son. Instead, he was looking for a kind-hearted person. When he knew that SHUN was a good son who treated his parents father, step mum and step brother well even though they hated and even wanted to kill him. SHUN was well-liked by the peoples when he administered the country. SHUN did not pass on the throne to his own son either but instead to another committed person, YI. Consequently YI was also a good emperor who had his subjects at heart in whatever he planned and implemented.Dr. HF Lim 林廷辉http://www.blogger.com/profile/15311955725765804835noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8631018772907165456.post-33954263804543824852012-12-30T05:28:00.002-08:002012-12-30T05:28:27.415-08:00Received this email: William Shakespeare said :
I always feel happy, you know why?
Because I don't expect anything from anyone
Expectations always hurt ...
Life is short ...
So love your life ...
Be happy and keep smiling
Before you speak, Listen
Before you write, Think
Before you spend, Earn
Before you pray, Forgive
Before you hurt, Feel
Before you hate, Love
That's Life .
Feel it, Live it & Enjoy it
Dr. HF Lim 林廷辉http://www.blogger.com/profile/15311955725765804835noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8631018772907165456.post-88586637827698068342012-12-16T05:45:00.002-08:002012-12-16T05:45:31.689-08:00:《黄帝内经胎育智慧》中提出批评孩子的以下“七不责”原则,末学问孩子的意见。孩子说,最重要是“欢庆不责”。
对众不责:大庭广众之下最好不要责备孩子,以免伤害其自尊心。
愧悔不责: 如果孩子已为自己的过错感到懊悔,就给孩子留个下台阶,你的宽容会让孩子更加真诚改过。
暮夜不责:睡觉前不要批评孩子,带着沮丧失落的情绪入睡,容易导致噩梦、夜惊等。
饮食不责: 吃饭的时候责备孩子,容易使消化功能受影响。
欢庆不责: 正高兴的时候突然挨批评,年幼的孩子很难承受和调节这种心理落差。
悲忧不责:哭泣时受备责,对孩子来说“雪上加霜”,可能陷入情绪低谷,变得自卑。
疾病不责:生病是人体最脆弱的时候,此时孩子更需要关怀和温暖,而不是批评反省。
无论家长还是孩子,情绪激动、心情不佳时,都不利于分析问题和认识错误。因此,孩子犯了错,首先,最好先有缓冲时间,等双方情绪都平静下来,冷静思考后,再进行询问和管教。其次,批评要有针对性,对事不对人。只有具体,孩子才会明白自己究竟错在哪里,才知道如何改正。最后,不要反复强调孩子的过失,要鼓励他积极改过,同时传达你的信任。这样才能让孩子知道,做错应受到批评,但父母不会因为他做了错事就不爱他,而是希望他能健康地成长。
Do not "teach" our children under 7 conditions. 1). In public places. 2) When he/she regrets. 3) Before sleep. 4) When taking food. 5) When he/she is happy. 6) When he/she is sad and crying. 7) When he/she is sick or not feeling well. Steps to be take to guide the children. Step 1: Cooling time. Step 2: Look at the weakness, not the person. Step 3: Do not repeat pointing the fault but encourage not the repeat the mistake. Trust our children. Let he/she knows that it does not mean that you do not love him/her if a mistake is made.
Dr. HF Lim 林廷辉http://www.blogger.com/profile/15311955725765804835noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8631018772907165456.post-46441641291358539512012-12-08T05:46:00.001-08:002012-12-08T05:46:33.127-08:00看《癌细胞变快乐佛细胞》一书。李丰医师几十年与淋巴癌和平共处的心得如下。
信念:健康靠自己。
方法:自我反省, 即观念的修正。
致癌原因:天生怕冷,却选择到加拿大念书,基本上已经违反了健康的大原则;自己长期吃进许多可怕、有害健康的食物;老板是犹太人,对员工非常严苛,身心承受压力。
改变观念: 承认生病该由自己负责,善待癌细胞。
力行:改变饮食;运动是改变体质的根本办法,天天爬山;每天远动4小时,如瑜伽,打坐。
心里调整:笑、不生气,正面态度看待一切事情;学习放松。
心得:活得越长及越有声有色的人,往往都是勇于自省,及坚持修正自己的生活方式的人。
原则:“改得越多,改得越彻底,好得越快”。
念佛:天天念极乐,天天都快乐。
This Chinese physician, cancer survivor for more than 30 years. What does she manage it?
Belief: Self help is most important.
Method: Look within, adjust mind set.
Causes of cancer: against the law of nature by studying in a cold country; took junk food;work stress.
Efforts to overcome cancer: change diet, exercise (4 hours a day).
Mood adjustment: smile, no anger, be positive, relax.
Sharing: those who lead a happy life are those who are brave to adjust their ife.
Principle: the faster one change, the faster the recovery.
Recite Buddha's name: recite daily, enjoy daily happiness.
Dr. HF Lim 林廷辉http://www.blogger.com/profile/15311955725765804835noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8631018772907165456.post-80690294125317792122012-12-01T05:41:00.001-08:002012-12-01T05:41:11.111-08:0012月1日:下午,陪同内人去中华教育文化中心听陈真老师的课。老师了解孩子的心理,并且提出很实用的方法。孩子是可以教得好的,就看家长如何去落实这些方法。末学对老师的方法充满信心。
1) 所谓的问题学生,心中有怨。
2) 帮助别人,也要有一些条件。别人相信你吗?
3) 孩子需要陪伴,倾听,聊天。从中找出原因。
4) 学生不是懒,是没有能力。
5) 因材施教,法无定法。不是口号,要力行。
6) 不是他不明白,是你不会说话。
7) 外面的诱惑那么大,他能站得稳吗?
8) 指望别人生烦恼,指望自己生智慧。
9) 假期间,长辈先规划时间表,自己做过才教孩子。
10)孩子养成好习惯,父母才能轻松。
The so-called problem child actually has dissatisfaction.
If you wish to help others, the conditions must be appropriate. Does he trust you?
Spend time with children, listen to them. You will find the cause of his unhappiness.
The child is not lazy, just lack ability to do something expected.
There is no one method of guiding the child. Act accordingly.
It is not that he does not understand, it is because you have not conveyed rightly.
The child faces lot of external attractions, is he firm enough to resist?
Expect others, worry arises. Expect oneself, wisdom emerges.
Plan our daily activities during the holidays, then the children will follow.
If children have right practices, the task of teaching will be easier.
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