在SM超市，看到一个3 岁小孩在入口处大喊大叫。末学走过去问问孩子的母亲，得知孩子一直要求妈妈给他玩电动玩具。妈妈说已经玩了两次，孩子还是要玩。 末学蹲下身子，握着孩子的手，说他是个好孩子。孩子低下头来吻末学的手。末学说，你真是个好孩子。孩子想了一下， 转过头，又哭了。末学转身面对他，问 Adakah Ali tahu siapakah yang melahirkan Ali? 孩子看看妈妈。 Ali sayang ibu? Sayang. Jika Ali sayang ibu, dengarlah kata-kata ibu. 孩子点头。 孩子的父亲驾车来了。末学向他们一家人说再见。

The more we observe things happening around us, the more we feel that there are too many problems facing human society. Conflict, disharmony and disasters are too common now. How can we solve these problems? The answer to this lies with our mind. The solution is with everyone of us. We have to transform ourselves. Just plant the seed of harmony in our mind and then translate it in our though, speech and action. When we begin to do so, we will soon realise the how important our mind is in changing our life destiny and that of the universe. Just do it, here and now.

“教孩子恭敬，教孝道。学会了这两个字，他的人格成长有基础，他的成绩一定很好，你根本不用盯着他读书。为什么？他懂得父母的需要，知道父母的心境。与其每一天盯着他，天天跟他冲突，倒不如让孩子能够主动学习，生起那份对人的尊重、对人的爱跟关怀。实际上孩子自己有上进心，自愿学习，这比什么都重要”。 Educate our children to be responsible and respectful. Learn these two things that will strengthen children's personnel development and their academic performance will be good too. We do not have to keep our eyes on them to ensure that they will study. Why? After learning to be responsible and respectful,our children understand our feelings and our aspirations. If we were to watch them all the time, that will only bring conflicts. It is better to let children learn willingly. Let them learn to respect, love and care for others. In reality, it is most important for children to be forward looking and ready to learn willingly.

KNOW OUR WAY, KNOW THE OTHER'S WAY. In human interaction, it is so important to know our own way and the way of the other person we are interacting with. Take the case of father and son/daughter. The father's way towards the children is to love them in all aspects without conditions. The child's way is to be dutiful to the father. To be in harmony, it does not matter whether our children are dutiful or not, the role of the parents is to love and care for the children. Vice versa, whether the parents love them or not, the children must be dutiful to the parents at all time. The relationship is like two drivers on the road. There are certain rules to follow when driving. Driver A must know his own way and the way of the other driver on the road. Vice versa. By know the ways, the two drivers would not result in any unnecessary incidents while driving. Let's learn to know our own ways by understanding our position in relation to the other person in interaction. I use this method to interact with others and find it very useful. May you also benefit from this.

讒言。 讒言慎莫听 听之祸殃结 君听臣当诛 父听子当决 夫妻听之离 兄弟听之别 朋友听之疏 骨肉听之绝 堂堂七尺躯 莫听三寸舌 舌上有龙泉 杀人不见血 RUMOURS Do not listen to rumours When listened and influenced, troubles/problems may follow. The leader may kill the followers. Father may break up with children Couple may divorce Siblings may depart Friends may distant Blood relation may end The humans are physically tall Never listen to talk of little mouth The tongue is a sharp knife Killing in silence

Universal Values: Source of Happiness and Harmony (In Preparation) Through out human history, people are searching for happiness and harmony. Even though happiness is sometimes viewed as a personal matter, it is now measurable in terms of so called happiness index. The most popular being the Gross National happiness Index. Does happiness follow material progress and modernisation? The truth is as human civilization progresses, amidst science and technological advancement, happiness and harmony is so near and yet so far for the human society. In general, most people perceive that material wealth brings happiness. Hence, economic progress and technical education are given more emphasis. Yet, they are many among the affluent who are not happy. The middle and lower classes are not happy either. In reality, many people in both developed and developing nations, rich and poor, actually live in fear and lack social security. Moral education has been identified as one of the means to achieve happiness and harmony. Such education is found in the teachings of the religions and the sages. It is now perceived that the universal values contained in these teachings have to be re-positioned in human society if human beings wish to attain happiness and harmony. In this context a small being effort is made to re-look at the universal values as emphasised by Kongzi or Confucius (551–479 B.C.E). Such universal values are generally known as Di Zi Gui or Standards for Being A Good Student or “The Rules for Students”. Di Zi Gui is sourced from Analects of Confucious. Such values were then arranged and presented in current form by Li Yuxiu in the 17th and 18th centuries during the reign of Emperor Kangxi (1661-1722) of the Qing Dynasty. Based on the practices of the wise and sages in the past, Confucius observed that happiness and harmony could be achieved when good values are practised between the following parties. (a) parents and children, (b) husband and wife, (c) brothers and sisters, (d) leaders and followers, employers and employees, (e) among friends. It is important to note that such values emphasised by Confucius are not new. These values are universal and found in other cultures and religious teachings too. Confucius just reminded us among these values which are the most important and must be given priority. In all human societies, such universal values were passed down from generation to generation by the elders to the young ones. As society modernises and materialises, these values are now marginalised and side-lined, if not forgotten. It is hope that this effort would assist in reviving the practise of universal values that could could bring happiness to the individuals and families. Subsequently, world harmony would be achieved. This write-up only repeats the universal values practised by all cultures and are still very relevant in this science and technology era. As such, the readers should view these universal values as supplementary practices that support the existing cultures and great religious teachings. Indeed, universal values are actually education suitable for practice by all peoples irrespective of cultural, ethnic and religious origins. The practice such universal values could bring happiness and harmony to the individuals and families. It helps to avoid and resolve conflicts among the multi-ethnic Malaysian society. The universal values are the foundation for national unity and world harmony. By practising these values in our daily livelihood, any time and any where, our life destiny will be changed. It is our wish that you and your family too would enjoy the bliss of happiness and harmony by practising universal values in daily life. May all enjoy the bliss of happiness and harmony. From the heart of love, health and compassion Lim Hin Fui, PhD

The little book "Nilai-Nilai Murni Sejagat: ke arah keluarga bahagia dan keharmonian dunia" has received good response. 3 prisons in Peninsular Malaysia has each received 150 copies of the books free of charge. These prisons are in Taiping, Arau and Marang. it is hoped that the book could benefit both the staffs and those serving their terms. Best wishes to all.