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：《黄帝内经胎育智慧》中提出批评孩子的以下“七不责”原则，末学问孩子的意见。孩子说，最重要是“欢庆不责”。 对众不责：大庭广众之下最好不要责备孩子，以免伤害其自尊心。 愧悔不责： 如果孩子已为自己的过错感到懊悔，就给孩子留个下台阶，你的宽容会让孩子更加真诚改过。 暮夜不责：睡觉前不要批评孩子，带着沮丧失落的情绪入睡，容易导致噩梦、夜惊等。 饮食不责： 吃饭的时候责备孩子，容易使消化功能受影响。 欢庆不责： 正高兴的时候突然挨批评，年幼的孩子很难承受和调节这种心理落差。 悲忧不责：哭泣时受备责，对孩子来说“雪上加霜”，可能陷入情绪低谷，变得自卑。 疾病不责：生病是人体最脆弱的时候，此时孩子更需要关怀和温暖，而不是批评反省。 无论家长还是孩子，情绪激动、心情不佳时，都不利于分析问题和认识错误。因此，孩子犯了错，首先，最好先有缓冲时间，等双方情绪都平静下来，冷静思考后，再进行询问和管教。其次，批评要有针对性，对事不对人。只有具体，孩子才会明白自己究竟错在哪里，才知道如何改正。最后，不要反复强调孩子的过失，要鼓励他积极改过，同时传达你的信任。这样才能让孩子知道，做错应受到批评，但父母不会因为他做了错事就不爱他，而是希望他能健康地成长。 Do not "teach" our children under 7 conditions. 1). In public places. 2) When he/she regrets. 3) Before sleep. 4) When taking food. 5) When he/she is happy. 6) When he/she is sad and crying. 7) When he/she is sick or not feeling well. Steps to be take to guide the children. Step 1: Cooling time. Step 2: Look at the weakness, not the person. Step 3: Do not repeat pointing the fault but encourage not the repeat the mistake. Trust our children. Let he/she knows that it does not mean that you do not love him/her if a mistake is made.

看《癌细胞变快乐佛细胞》一书。李丰医师几十年与淋巴癌和平共处的心得如下。 信念：健康靠自己。 方法：自我反省， 即观念的修正。 致癌原因：天生怕冷，却选择到加拿大念书，基本上已经违反了健康的大原则；自己长期吃进许多可怕、有害健康的食物；老板是犹太人，对员工非常严苛，身心承受压力。 改变观念： 承认生病该由自己负责，善待癌细胞。 力行：改变饮食；运动是改变体质的根本办法，天天爬山；每天远动4小时，如瑜伽，打坐。 心里调整：笑、不生气，正面态度看待一切事情；学习放松。 心得：活得越长及越有声有色的人，往往都是勇于自省，及坚持修正自己的生活方式的人。 原则：“改得越多，改得越彻底，好得越快”。 念佛：天天念极乐，天天都快乐。 This Chinese physician, cancer survivor for more than 30 years. What does she manage it? Belief: Self help is most important. Method: Look within, adjust mind set. Causes of cancer: against the law of nature by studying in a cold country; took junk food;work stress. Efforts to overcome cancer: change diet, exercise (4 hours a day). Mood adjustment: smile, no anger, be positive, relax. Sharing: those who lead a happy life are those who are brave to adjust their ife. Principle: the faster one change, the faster the recovery. Recite Buddha's name: recite daily, enjoy daily happiness.

12月1日：下午，陪同内人去中华教育文化中心听陈真老师的课。老师了解孩子的心理，并且提出很实用的方法。孩子是可以教得好的，就看家长如何去落实这些方法。末学对老师的方法充满信心。 1) 所谓的问题学生，心中有怨。 2) 帮助别人，也要有一些条件。别人相信你吗？ 3) 孩子需要陪伴，倾听，聊天。从中找出原因。 4) 学生不是懒，是没有能力。 5) 因材施教，法无定法。不是口号，要力行。 6) 不是他不明白，是你不会说话。 7) 外面的诱惑那么大，他能站得稳吗？ 8) 指望别人生烦恼，指望自己生智慧。 9) 假期间，长辈先规划时间表，自己做过才教孩子。 10）孩子养成好习惯，父母才能轻松。 The so-called problem child actually has dissatisfaction. If you wish to help others, the conditions must be appropriate. Does he trust you? Spend time with children, listen to them. You will find the cause of his unhappiness. The child is not lazy, just lack ability to do something expected. There is no one method of guiding the child. Act accordingly. It is not that he does not understand, it is because you have not conveyed rightly. The child faces lot of external attractions, is he firm enough to resist? Expect others, worry arises. Expect oneself, wisdom emerges. Plan our daily activities during the holidays, then the children will follow. If children have right practices, the task of teaching will be easier.